As a mom of twins, you quickly become accustomed to being stopped by a million perfect strangers who are intrigued by the two little angels tagging along beside you.
Their interrogations are purely innocent and sparked from people’s natural interest in the uniquities of twins. But after so many inquisitions about my twins, the line of questioning on one particular day got me thinking about my responses to strangers in a different way.
I am a Mom Of Twins, So Yes My Hands are Full, But My Heart is Even Fuller!
While I was on a walk today, I was once again stopped by a stranger who couldn’t contain their bursting curiosity about my life as a mom of twins. With two boys in tow, a double stroller and our black lab, I often hear, “Wow! You really have your hands full!”
I used to smile, nod my head and make small talk about our twin, answering a battery of personal questions like (just to name a few):
- Are they identical or fraternal?
- Do twins run in your family?
- Were you shocked when you found out you were having twins?
But today, something came over me and I responded by saying, “Yup. Hands full, HEART full.” I kindly smiled and kept walking. The family stopped on the trail with their dogs and looked stunned that I didn’t want to talk today. As I slowly sauntered down the hill I heard a trailing, “Huh, I’ll bet her heart is really full.”
Here’s why my response to those strangers acknowledged that my hands were full, but alluded to the fact that truly it’s my heart that is full. My heart is full because I’ve never known a love greater than the unconditional love of a child. Each and every morning, I feel that my heart is going to burst out of my chest when I see my angels smiling as they eagerly await for me to get them out of their cribs.
My heart is full because of the way my boys look at my husband and giggle so excitedly when he picks them up to play airplane.
My heart is full because I am the lucky one who gets to witness every single “first” in their lives. I am the one who gets to see the pride on their face when they have accomplished something new.
My heart bursts when they wrap their tiny fingers around my pinkie finger as we stroll through the grocery store.
And I melt each and every time they lean in for sweet baby kisses.
My heart is full because I am blessed to be chosen to be a mom of twins, THEIR mom.
So to you, the stranger on the street, who looks at me in awe and tells me that my hands are full: yes they are full. But my heart is more full than it’s ever been. Even though I don’t know how it’s possible, the love in my heart will continue to grow with each and every memory I make watching my two little miracles grow.
I wouldn’t change any minute of this wonderful chaos for anything, because I am so full of love, making every moment worth it!
What a fabulous post! I get the same questions or comments but felt compelled to answer each question. This is a wonderful way to be polite but move on! I enjoy your tips especially as I try to make my way through being a first time mom of twins!
Thanks Denise! We are so honored that you enjoyed the post and even found it helpful in your day to day adventures with your angels! We are so glad to have you here. Please don’t hesitate to let us know what you want to read about or need a little support with!
What a great response! Before I became pregnant w my twins, I would be that annoying person wanting to ask 101 questions..I still find myself asking moms of twins for advice and “how do you…” Questions. But as I patiently await their arrival, every mom is different and everyone will learn “how to” in their own way. Ive learned to ignore the ignorant comments of others and enjoy the ride and the adventure I will soon embark upon!
God bless you and your family! And all families!
Congratulations Maida! We hope that everything goes smoothly and you have a happy, healthy delivery. We’d love to see pictures! You are right, everyone is different and will figure it all out! We are constantly asking for advice from other twin moms we meet. Please never hesitate to reach out, we are a village!
That’s a sweet response! Our boys are 4 months old and I’m hearing lots of “I could never do that!” Well, there’s a lot of things you think you could never do, but by God’s Grace you CAN! I say “yes it’s hard but it’s SO much fun. I wouldn’t trade them for anything!” (I’m really enjoying this blog, btw 🙂
Hi Alissa! We are so happy that you’re enjoying our blog. We are truly overjoyed to have you here! Twins are an amazing blessing and we are with you, we wouldn’t trade it for ANYTHING! Don’t ever hesitate to let us know what you want to read about or need support with. We are thrilled to be part of your village!
I LOVE this response. Short, simple, to the point, and full of meaning.
When people look at my big belly and say ‘is it your first!?’ I want to say … ‘fifth! I have one on Earth and 3 in Heaven’ …. have not had the nerve to say that yet. But, I’m already getting, once people learn my second boy is on the way, ‘oh you have to try for a girl now!’. Hmm … would like to come up with something for that – informative but not snarky. Maybe just a simple ‘we are happy with whatever God give us’
We often get that question as well, and the real response is so complicated and often difficult. Truly we are blessed, even with our hands full, even with the chaos and craziness, and honestly we could wish for anything more! Congrats!
I don’t have twins, but what a great response! Short and simple…perfect! My kids are close in age, so I’ve received the same type of comments before as well. I’ll be using this the next time I get a similar comment 😉
Hi Sumer, thanks for stopping by! We are so glad you enjoyed the post and can relate a little.
Love this! I am guilty of thinking that, so thank you for reminding me how full a mama’s heart is no matter how many!
Sometimes we just need a simple reminder of how blessed we really are. It is easy to get lost in the chaos. Thank you for being so honest.
I like how you handled that!
Thank you Jasmine. We appreciate you stopping by!
Your twins look so adorable. They are precious..
Thanks Roy, we sure love them. Thank you for stopping by!
Your babes are so cute! I’m sure my mom would agree with you (I am one of three triplet girls). There’s one story I remember fondly of when her and my dad brought us to a fair. They had to leave because SO many people kept stopping to admire us and ask questions. You’re doing great, momma!
Hi Jessica, I bet your mom got that comment a lot! Triplet girls, what a blessing! Thank you for the encouragement, it means a lot.
I love this. We don’t have twins but we have 2 sets of children close in age and 5 total so I get this comment all the time. I will have to remember this next time someone says something.
Thanks Bethany! Sometimes we just have to chuckle at the things people say! My sister and I are only 16 months apart and my mom said she felt like she raised twins at times. 🙂 Thanks for reading our blog. Have a great day!